Parenting books ~ Are you asking the right questions?

Today I’m talking about asking the right questions.  This post comes after some holiday reading that really got me thinking about whether as a parent I am asking the right questions.

We live in a BLAME culture.  We do really and I don’t want to be a part of it any more.  I do like to think of myself as someone who takes full responsibility for my life but when I came across these two parenting books, I had a rethink about what actually comes out of my mouth.

Both of these books tie in perfectly with the law of attraction by the way.

Let me tell you all about them.

Ask Better Questions

The first book I read was Parenting the QBQ Way.  This book is about personal accountability.  When I first started reading this book I thought “Great, this is just what my son needs.”

Oops!!! I quickly realised it is more about what I need.  I need to be the one asking QBQ’s (Questions behind the question). Basically better questions.

Questions like…

• Who did this?  When a drink has been spilt is blame thinking.
• When is my child going to listen to me?” Isn’t helpful either.

Introduce QBQ thinking and you’ll be asking questions like:

• “How can I help my child to be more independent?”
• “How can I help my child get more organized?”
• “What can I do to understand my child better?”

Now this book is in no way about doing everything for your child.  It’s about you the parent asking better questions that will help you achieve personal accountability and in turn teach those skills to your child.

BRILLIANT, BRILLIANT BOOK .  Reading this book and putting what you learn in place in your own life has the power to change your life, your child’s life and the world (big words I know but that’s how much I think of this book).

This is a 5***** Parenting book. 

What we can learn from Killer Whales!

I have a habit of downloading sample chapters on my kindle.  I read through the samples until I find something I love.  I came across Whale Done Parenting.  To be honest I hadn’t really been looking for a parenting book but it looked interesting.  Honestly, I was hooked straight away. The story starts off at Seaworld and I was fascinated firstly by the story of becoming a killer whale trainer (not that I have any desire to get in a pool with these magnificent creatures).  So the sample finished and I immediately bought the book.  I needed to know more.

Now for years I’ve been encouraging parents to focus on the good stuff (great advice by the way) but this book takes things to a whole new level and I just couldn’t read it fast enough.  Sometimes as a parent I need reminding of how important this is and there are so many examples to help you relate the situations to your own family life.

Hand on my heart, I do fall into the nagging parent trap from time to time and I get sick of hearing myself some days.  I know it’s completely ineffective but it happens.  Reading this book has given me more ideas to focus on the good stuff.

One of the things I really love in this book is setting your child up to succeed.  With just a little bit of forward planning, we can make succeeding much easier for our children.

Whale Done in schools

Because I loved Whale Done Parenting so much I also read Whale Done School.  It’s the story of how a struggling school turned things around by introducing the Whale Done idea.  It’s a wonderful true story and again well worth reading.  Although it’s based at the school, the ideas can still be used at home.

Okay I know that was three books not two but they’re all so brilliant I had to share them with you.

Now it’s your turn.  Have you read any of these books?  If you have let me know your thoughts below, I’d love to hear some examples of how you’ve used these books in your own life.  What other parenting books do you recommend and why?

Love and happiness.