What does it mean to feel content with your life? Doesn’t that just mean to settle for what you have because you don’t see how you can make it better?
So many people are judging themselves and their life against the life of other people and feeling dissatisfied with their lot, maybe you’re one of those people. I was for a long time.
So feeling content with your life is not about giving in and settling for what you’ve got, it’s about learning to appreciate what you already have and from there build on what you have.
[tweetthis]It’s not about settling for what you have, it’s about appreciating what you have & building on it[/tweetthis]
When you don’t feel that contentment with your life, you tend to have thoughts along the lines of “this isn’t what I want, it’s not enough, I’m not enough…”
When you are able to feel content with your life and yourself, you are in a perfect place to grow and build on that, make it even better.
3 Tips to feel more content with your life
Stop judging yourself based on other people
Instead get really clear about what it is that you want in life and who you want to be (how you want to live your life). You cannot ever be happy or content trying to be someone else. There will always be people with more than you, better this and better that, but I guarantee that someone else is looking at you and thinking the same thing.
[tweetthis]Get clear about who you want to be and how you want to live your life [/tweetthis]
Focus on what you do have and what is going well in your life.
What we focus our attention on is really important. Read this post for more on the importance of focus. If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life and what you don’t have then you’re actually allowing more negative stuff to come into your life and actively blocking the good positive stuff.
TIP: Start a gratitude journal to help you stay focused on what you already have to be thankful for in your own life. You can get my Free Gratitude pack.
Calm your mind down and say nice things to yourself
I know this one sounds a bit Airy Fairy but it’s powerful. What we say to ourselves really matters. If you’re constantly saying negative things to yourself like:
- My life’s rubbish
- I’m no good at anything
- I can’t do anything right
- I’ll never have that (when thinking of something you want)
- I hate my life
If you’ve got negative self-chatter going on, then it’s going to feel like an uphill battle and those feelings of contentment will elude you.
Instead, Clear your mind of the clutter ~ Watch Clear your Mind Clutter video
And start saying positive things to yourself like:
- I like this
- This is what I want
- I like this part of my life
- I love this about my life
- I like my…
- I love my…
Keep your focus on what you like.
Over to you.
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Love and Happiness
Wendy
P.S I want to express gratitude today for Sarah Arrow and her 30 day Blogging challenge. I’m on day 24 today and I’ve learned so much and it’s all free.
Lots of clear ideas here and the image you have created really helps too.
Thanks Yvette. It’s good to hear the image helps, I’m only just getting to grips with them. xx
Interesting how acceptance and contentment presupposes different things to different people. Surrendering to “what is” is a learned response to constantly thinking you can control life. Create Life? That’s something else, again.
I don’t believe we can control life but I do believe we can do a great deal to create the life we want. Thank for commenting Kate xx