Now I have to admit, I’ve never had too much of a problem saying “No” but I know a lot of you do and if you’re looking at the image to the right and thinking but I like going to parties and I don’t want to stay in and read a book, that’s great. My point to you is to make sure that you’re not saying “Yes.” when you really want to say “No.”
I definitely don’t have enough fingers or toes to count how many people, just this year have said to me “But I don’t like to say no.”
I’m giving you permission to say “No”
Are you overcommitting?
Here are just a few areas where I see people overcommitting on a regular basis.
- Work ~ Taking on more work than you can physically get done (well) in your normal work hours.
- Social events ~ Saying yes to every social event going. I’ve known people who regularly commit to 3 events on the same evening just because they can’t say “NO.”
- School related events ~ Signing your kids up for every club going, saying yes to the PTA, saying yes to having your friends kids after school two night a week…
The same 24 hours each day
Each of us has the same 24 hours each and every day. The way we use that 24 hours differs greatly and that’s a good thing. However, I want you to just do a quick tally of your commitments.
Does saying “Yes” to 3 coffee mornings this week mean that you say “No” to building your business?
Does saying “Yes” to that extra work mean you’re spending less time with your family?
Does saying “Yes” to every club your child shows an interest in mean you’re not getting any time in the evening and weekend for yourself?
Often when we are in the habit of saying “YES!” to other people. We are actually saying “NO!” to ourselves.
Now I don’t for one second want you to think that you always have to say “No.” But what I do want you to do is make sure you’re saying yes, only when you have the time and only when you really want to.
Commit to a “No”
If you’re currently feeling overstretched time wise. I want you to make a commitment right here, right now, that you will say “NO!” to at least one thing this week.
I’d love to hear what you’re saying “No” to. Leave me a comment below.
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