The question of how to deal with negative people comes up with almost all of my law of attraction coaching clients. When you are trying to be really positive and you are faced with people who are negative, it can feel like a bit of a battle.
Sometimes people have work colleagues who are negative, or it might be a business contact that you really need to keep dealing with, a client that is negative or even friends or family members who you love but always seem to be negative.
I’ve put together a few of the tips I use and share with my coaching clients.
Accept people for who they are
You might not like who they are or the way they speak or behave. In reality, however well we think we know another person, we never really know what they have going on in their life or the reasons behind why they are negative.
So just make a decision that you are just going to accept them. This is not always easy to carry off but just keep reminding yourself that you are just going to accept people for who they are.
Focus on the positives
What tends to happen when you frequently have to spend time with people who are negative is that you tend to expect a certain behaviour even before you are anywhere near them.
So what I encourage you to do is focus on positives. Before you even meet up with the person who is normally negative, start thinking of anything you can that is positive about them. If you can’t, simply remind yourself, I’m looking for something positive about this person.
Remind yourself of your reality
Okay so when someone talks about how dreadful business is or expresses annoyance about one of their customers… or even just moans in general about the weather, their children, their partner… a really positive thing to do is say to yourself in your mind “That’s not my truth.” and then start filling your mind with positive thoughts.
Shift the focus
It’s really easy to just agree when someone is complaining about something. I know that I personally found myself doing this a lot when I first started working on being a more positive person. I suppose it feels like you’re being polite in some weird way.
So instead of getting drawn into this negative circle, try to gently shift the conversation to something more positive. There’s no need to disagree with people, you can simply just shift the focus to something a little more positive.
One of the things I learned very early on as a law of attraction practitioner in training back in 2009/2010 is that it’s my job keep myself as positive as possible. So in other words, whatever is going on around you and however other people are feeling and behaving, it is always your priority to work on keeping yourself positive.
I hope these tips help you out if you’re dealing with any negative people. Stay positive.